I worry about writing on this topic. Simply because my intention is to solicit your thoughts, ideas, and experiences through the medium of this blog, rather than pontificate about myself and my particular situation. Therefore, as I write this please consider your personal situation and circumstance and be ready to share or respond - or at the very least commiserate with a like-minded soul!
Your personal El Guapo may be something entirely different, but there may be some commonalities running through our individual experiences and challenges.
I have not found a ‘How-To’ guide for these mental challenges.